According to ancient philosophers, a good friend will help you move. A really good friend will help you move a body. In the last decade or so the definition of friend has changed. According to Facebook, I have 1968 friends. In real life I might have thirty friends, if I count all my brothers, my sister, brother in law, and sisters in law. Some of my Facebook friends have become real life friends, but the majority I know only from what they post in my news feed.
I would like to ask a question, is a Facebook friend a real friend? The dictionary defines a friend as a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. I post on Facebook A LOT. Probably more than any sane person should. I usually post sarcastic, witty comments. I have received dozens of messages from people who say, “You make me laugh every day,” or “I really needed to laugh today”. I bring a snicker to the hearts of 1968 people every day. Does that make me a friend? Maybe. Now, I can’t be the Energizer Bunny of happiness. I have bad days. I rarely post that I’m having a crappy day. I figure most people are having a bad day. They don’t need me to remind them how much they’d like to sew their boss’s face to the carpet. When I informed the Facebook world that my nephew had died “friends” from all over the world sent messages of comfort. They wanted to lift me up through my family’s tragedy. Did their condolences help? Heck yeah they helped!
I have made some very dear friends on Facebook. Friends who cheer me up when I’m down, celebrate in my successes, support me in all my endeavors, make me laugh, and are just dang good people to have in my life. I have a friend who exemplifies the meaning of friend. When I play the poor picked on me little girl, he smacks me on the back of my virtual head and pulls me off the pity pot. He makes me see the situation clearly and realize that it isn’t as horrible as I have made it out to be. He lets me know when I’m being an idiot, when I’m amazing, and when I’ve crossed a line. Is he a true friend even though we chat in a virtual world? Simply put, yes he is.